How to deal with depression during the holiday season

I’m having some anxiety that the sun is going down earlier and earlier and soon its going to be dark by 5pm. Last year, I wasn’t as sad as the year before. The holidays really affect me. I don’t know why or what, I cannot get into the holiday spirit and I’m doing something about it this year. Naturally, I thought it would be a good topic so here we go.

Why do we feel depressed during the winter?

Most medical professionals believe that seasonal depression happens because of the lack of light during the winter months.

The days get shorter, and the nights get longer – and we get less light.

Because we dont get as much sunlight it makes your body  produce more melatonin, which is the sleep hormone. As a result, we  feel more tired, lazy, and obviously – your good mood gets affected.

Another issue that makes us feel more depressed is when we feel that we need to be happy all the time 24 hours a day.

Is it possible to always be happy?

Can you really love your life – every single day? How do you avoid bad times?  

I used to have the same doubts.

 I kept wondering – why can’t I be happy like everyone else?

It took me a while to realize that people aren’t really always happy. Sometimes, some of them pretend to be. And the really brave ones have the guts to admit when they aren’t!  

In my book, intuition is your superpower, i mentioned that i’ve dealt with depression since i was a teenager. I didn’t realized i was depressed when i was a teenager, i only noticed the pattern when i left for college. I’ve always felt empty and lonely. Last year during thanksgiving, i felt like after a long time of not having intense feelings of emptiness, it came back. I could not put my finger to it until later that day. I was asking myself why i felt sad and lonely when i only have first world problems.

It wasn’t until later that i realized the emptiness was from the abandonment energy of the city. You see SF is always buzzing and the city gets deserted during 24-26th of November. It was quiet. Barely any cars in the city and shops were closed.

Why can’t we ALWAYS be happy?

Expecting to ALWAYS be happy is impossible.

Just look at your body if you don’t believe me.

You know those monitors that show heartbeats? The ones doctors use?

Well, you’ve probably noticed what it looks like when your heart is beating – up & downs, up & down. That means you’re alive. And you all know what happens 

if the line goes flat, right?

Means you are dead.

Ups & downs are just another part of life – that’s how you know you’re alive and kicking.

Sure, some people have it better than others but trust me – no one has it all.

Here are some tips I practice myself whenever I need reminding that you CANNOT always be happy!

Tips for dealing with holiday depression

  1. Accept negativity as part of life

  2. Learn how to process emotions

  3. Master the art of letting go

  4. Do more of the things you love

    1. Accept negativity as part of life

    Bad emotions aren’t really the complete opposite of good ones. We’ve just been led to believe that there are “good” emotions and “bad” emotions.

    Sure, some emotions make you feel good and some make you feel bad – but that doesn’t mean they’re bad. They’re simply emotions you have to process – and move on.

    I want you to give yourself permission to feel – even if it means feeling bad.

    Feeling depressed for a day doesn’t mean your whole life is ruined. Happiness isn’t a destination really – it’s a life-long journey.

    2. Learn how to process emotions

    Do you let yourself be sad?

    Not letting yourself feel bad doesn’t mean you’re not letting negativity get to you. It means you’re suppressing everything deep into your subconscious, where it does even more damage!

    Get negative emotions out of your system.

    Everyone has a different way of dealing with negativity. Find yours.

    Some people like to journal their feelings. Others love a good workout – and some love crying. I feel like often we do injustice to crying – crying is not BAD! It’s just another way to process emotions!

    3. Master the art of letting go

    Do you get upset if someone says or does something?

    Don’t give that much power to other people. 

    Don’t let the opinion of others hold you hostage. You don’t have to meet any expectations. Forget all of the coulda, woulda, shoulda. You know why? It’s going to make you crazy thinking about that.  Nothing good comes out of it.

    Forgive yourself for getting upset and love yourself – always.


    4. Do more of the things you love

    How often do you do something simply because you love that? I’ll be the first one to admit – not often enough.

    I came upon this realization while writing my to-do list. I was shocked to realize I didn’t want to do any of those things – and yet I’ve dedicated hours of my day to them!

    So here’s a big challenge for you. I challenge you to make a want-to-do list – and then start ticking things off there. Have some fun. You’re allowed to do anything you want.

    Wanna nap? Sure! Do you want to do some more baking? Be my guest! Want to spend the afternoon binge-watching Netflix? Go for it!

    And while doing everything you love, you’ll realize you’re already on the happiness highway!

    Thank you for reading, Intuition is your superpower is the title of my book. Available on Amazon both on kindle and paperback and also audible. I’ll love to hear what you think about your intuition after reading my book.