What is Weighing You Down?
Feeling like you’re walking around with a backpack full of rocks?
You’re not alone.
Millions feel weighed down but struggle to pinpoint the exact reason why. More often than not, the reason is their emotional baggage.
Emotional baggage can come in many shapes and sizes. Sometimes, it’s the unexplained anxiety you get while watching TV. Other times, it’s the pounding in your chest while you’re trying to sleep.
And most of the time, it’s the sensation of being tired – without an actual explanation why.
But you don’t have to walk around with all that load on your shoulders. There are ways you can deal with your emotional baggage – and replenish your energy.
Let me help you unpack.
Read on to learn the most common reasons you feel weighed down and ways how to unload emotional baggage without feeling stuck.
What is weighing you down in life?
Here are the most common reasons why people carry emotional baggage their whole lives
· Unexpressed negative emotions
This is THE number one reason why you feel weighed down.
Think about it. Whenever you’re feeling joy or happiness, you feel light, as if you’re about to fly off to the sky. The stronger the positive emotion, the lighter you feel.
On the other side, unexpressed negative emotions dim your light – and create that feeling of carrying load on your back. The more you suppress negative emotions, the heavier they get.
There’s no way around negative emotions. Can’t ignore them forever. You really have to get them out of the system – we’ll talk more about that later.
· Regrets about the past
If you ask me, we don’t talk about regret enough. Regret is a strong emotion – and can haunt you for years if you don’t do something about it.
Regrets causes rumination, over and over again until you feel mentally – and physically! – exhausted. But regret has another way to add to the weight – it can act as a fear and paralyze you when having to make present-day decisions.
Is that the thing for me? But what if it’s not? What if I end up making a mistake again?
The only way to deal with regret is to face your fears – and accept the fact that every single person on the planet has made the wrong decision sometimes.
· Unspoken grief
You know how sometimes, something bad happens but you pretend like it didn’t? You just move on with life.
Well… that’s just another way to shove grief deep into your baggage.
The thing is, you can’t cancel grief – you can’t simply deny it until it goes away.
Grief doesn’t like to be pushed under the carpet. You have to deal with it. Live through grief and go through all the stages of the grieving process. Let the sadness leave your body.
Trust me, you’ll feel lighter than ever before!
· Unresolved anger
People refusing to deal with anger snap for the most random things or behave in a very passive-aggressive manner.
I mean, I’m not judging or anything – I’ve done the same. Anger is a nasty emotion and it can overpower you completely. Feeling angry – and not dealing with it – can also make you physically sick!
More often than not, there are other emotions behind anger: shattered dreams, unspoken fears, a lot of hurt, regret... I can go on for ages.
Start with the obvious and work your way through. Once you unpack that big box of anger, you’ll realize it’s the best thing you could’ve done for yourself!
Here’s how to unload emotional baggage and leave it behind once and for all!
1. Be honest with yourself
Take a good look at your life. Which areas are you feeling stuck in?
Maybe your relationship isn’t as good as you thought it was. Maybe you’ve hit an invisible ceiling career-wise. Or simply, maybe it’s been way too long since you’ve dealt with your own emotions.
The places – or situations – where you feel stuck in life are good pointers as to where you should start looking first. At this point, don’t worry too much about connecting the dots. Let that happen naturally on its own.
Once you’ve identified the issues, think well. What can you do about it? Can you change it somehow? If yes – how? If no, what else can you do to feel better? How do you go about living your best life?
Write everything down for an added touch of clarity. Plan a course of action. And then, act upon it!
2. Find a way to process emotions
Once you start acting upon your plan, it means you’re ready – it’s time to unpack your emotional luggage.
You know what they say: better out than in!
Everyone has a different way of dealing with their emotions. It largely depends on your character and the emotion you’re feeling.
Some people prefer to do it alone. Others prefer an unpacking buddy. You do you – whatever works for you!
You can cry, laugh, journal, run, scream, punch a pillow – everything is allowed as long as you don’t hurt yourself or hurt others in the process.
And how do you know if you’re doing it right? Well, you feel a huge relief in your chest!
3. Take a good look at your surrounding
Unloading your emotional baggage is a process that won’t happen in a day. You want to have the right people supporting you through it.
Be honest now: are the people around you helping you unload your baggage – or adding more to it?
While those closest to you are under no obligation to help you get rid of emotional trauma, it’d be nice if you’re not surrounded with people who add more rocks to your backpack.
Don’t do that to yourself. You don’t need that in life. Put yourself – and your needs – first. Respect yourself enough to be surrounded with people who are good for you and who don’t add rocks in a bag you’re trying to empty.
4. Get help if needed!
There’s absolutely nothing – again, NOTHING – wrong with talking to someone about the weight you carry on your shoulders.
After all, you’ll be letting go of a lot of unprocessed emotion. You will need a safe place to do that.
Don’t force yourself to do it alone if you feel like you can’t.
Sometimes, talking to a close friend or relative is a good choice. Other times, you might need the help of a professional to assist you during the process.
Still feeling like you have no one to talk to? Talk to me - I’m always here to offer you my guidance!
Do you sometimes feel like you’re carrying all of the weight in the world on your shoulders? What do you do about it?