8 Habits of Happy People
Feeling like you’re always waiting for something to *finally* happen just so you can be happy?
Been there, done that – and still didn’t feel the euphoria I was expecting to. As cliché as it sounds, happiness isn’t something you can find.
It took me a while to understand though:
Happiness isn’t some kind of an exotic dream destination that only a few lucky ones are entitled to reach. It’s something that comes from within – it’s something you create along the way.
And believe it or not, you can adopt happiness as a habit. Why yes, I’m confidently saying that you can train your brain how to be happy!
Interested to find out more?
Join me here as we take a look into some of the habits of happy people that are worth adopting!
Habits of happy people
Here’s something to serve as an inspiration for you in the year to come!
1. They’re grateful
Happy people don’t wait for something bad to happen to count their blessings.
And if you think about it, being grateful is nothing more than practicing positivity. You’re consciously choosing to put your focus on the good instead of the bad.
*because honestly now, who has it all in life, right?!*
Appreciate the little things. Be thankful for everything you have right now – and life will give you even more things to be grateful for.
Still struggling to find the silver lining? Try this. Write down 10 things you’re grateful for on a small piece of paper and carry it everywhere you go. Each time you need a reminder, take a sneak peek!
2. They take care of themselves
If you’ve followed me for a while, you know this is one of my favorite examples to give. You know how in airplanes, the general rule in an emergency is to help yourself first, before helping others?
Well, that. It’s no coincidence happy people swear by it as well.
The thing is, you can’t be of help to others if you don’t help yourself first. Take good care of yourself – inside and out. Body, mind, and soul.
No need to do anything wow – start small! Self-care is in the little things like going to bed on time – and meditating, and going to the gym every other day and turning off your phone in the evening.
See? Not that hard!
3. They let go
Have you ever met someone happy who kept talking about that time in the past when they were – insert – sad, disappointed, angry.
I sure haven’t.
Happy people don’t talk about what was – they focus on what is. And if you want to be happy for real, leave it all behind.
Let go of the past – and let go of any expectations for the future. Learn how to forgive and forget – not because those who hurt you matter that much but for your own peace of mind. Relish the present moment.
Still struggling to keep your cool sometimes? Next time you get a strong emotional reaction for something, ask yourself this: Is this going to still matter after a year? Is this worth my energy right now?
99.9% of the time, it won’t matter!
4. They talk openly about their emotions
One of the most common misconceptions about being happy is that you’re supposed to always be positive, always be smiling – 24/7/365, NONSTOP.
Living the good life doesn’t equal all rainbows and butterflies. Things happen – life happens! – and not everything goes to plan but hey, that’s okay!
Happy people don’t shove negativity under a rug. Instead, they fully embrace it.
Don’t deny yourself the right to live through negativity. There’s no yin without the yang – and no yang without the yin.
And when you’re feeling under the weather, just say it. Talk it out. The sole act of saying I’m not feeling like my best self today OR I’m feeling sad/angry/disappointed is a STEP in the right direction.
Try it yourself. The minute you say it, you can literally sense negativity leaving your body and you feeling much better!
5. They surround themselves with good people
You know what they say: you’re the average of the 5 people you spend most of the time with.
Don’t waste time being around someone who’s not good for you.
Say no to emotional vampires. And to toxic friendships. And to those who refuse to look at the bright side of life and insist you sink with them.
Make room for people that bring out the best in you. Surround yourself with good people – kind hearted people. People that lift you up and motivate you to be a better version of yourself.
Not sure how to recognize if someone’s good for you? Look for people who make the child inside you do a little happy dance each time you hang out - that’s the best clue!
6. They help others
Happy people help others because a) they know what it feels like being on the other side of the spectrum and b) they want to give back.
Whenever I see someone helping others, I immediately think one thing – boy, they sure know what real happiness looks like.
Helping others is being self-sufficient on a whole other level. It’s like saying to the world – here, I have enough happiness to last me for the day! Seriously, have some of it yourself!
And do you want to know a secret?
Giving makes you feel good. It makes you giddy and joyous. Try it yourself and let me know how it goes.
7. They’ve accepted growth as part of life
Change is the only constant – and happy people are aware that nothing grows if nothing changes.
Things change. People change. Circumstances change – but that’s okay. That’s life – sometimes, you make it up as you go.
Accept change as just another aspect of a happy life. Leave the fixed mindset behind. Get out of the comfort zone.
Don’t be reluctant to try something new and something different. Give yourself the chance to explore. More often than not, you’ll be surprised to realize just how much you love it!
8. They choose to be happy
A common saying goes around the Internet saying happiness is a choice. It took me a while to understand what it really meant.
The thing is, we’re all confronted with a choice every day and that choice is pretty simple: are you going to be happy today or not?
If you look hard enough, there are always going to be reasons why you shouldn’t be happy about something. There’s always something missing - and you’ll always want something more.
But if you choose to be happy, you’re shifting your focus. You’re looking for reasons to smile, not reasons to cry. I say, choose happy. Say it in front of a mirror if that’s that you need to hear.
Remember, life will always give you lemons – but there’s always the choice to make the best lemonade out of them!
What do you think, what makes a happy life? Which of these habits are you going to adopt?