Spending the Holidays Alone?

Dreading Christmas time this year?

Spending the holidays alone is no fun, I’ll give you that. There are only so many times you can hear All I Want for Christmas is You without starting to feel miserable.

But you know what?

It doesn’t have to be that way!


You can feel good – even if you’re spending the holidays alone. And yes, even if Mariah Carey is playing on repeat. After all, being on your own doesn’t mean being lonely, does it now?

No matter whether you’ve recently broken up a relationship or moved away from family, read on to find out how to manage through the holidays on your own without feeling sorry for yourself – and actually have fun!

Are you spending the holidays alone after all?

Here’s what you can do if you’re being on your own during the holiday season!

1. Realize you’re not the only one

Feeling like you’re the only being miserable in the jolly season?

Nope – you’re not!

Seriously – hundreds of people feel lonely during the holidays. It’s just that no one really likes to talk about how they really feel.

I want you to remind you that there’s a big difference between being on your own and

feeling lonely. Being alone for Christmas Day doesn’t mean you’re lonely.  

Besides, it’s better to be on your own rather than be surrounded with people that make you feel lonely!

2. Limit social media time

I always say, social media is both a blessing and a curse.

If you’re feeling extra lonely during the holidays, I know where you’ll head first for some instant gratification – and end up feeling even worse. *been there, done that myself*

But you know what?

Not everyone you see posting an Instagram story is really having a good time. Not every smiling picture on Facebook means that person is happy. Don’t trust your phone screen that much.

If you do want to use social media, then use them for their real intention – connect with others. Give someone a video call. Send a Merry Christmas message! You know, actually talk to people!  Chances are, you’ll feel much, much better!

3. Be around people more

We are all social creatures – and we all crave human connection. Yes, even if you live on your own!

Once December starts rolling in, make it your job to be around people more. You don’t even have to talk to any of those people – simply being surrounded by other human beings makes you feel less lonely!

Don’t lock yourself at home.

Spend your lunch break at different places. Find a Christmas market in your area and mingle with others. Go to a different coworking place each day – and you’ll notice how the winter blues are slowly going away.

4. Volunteer!

Still thinking you have it worst? Volunteering is a great way to be reminded of how lucky you are.

Count your blessings this year. Find a cause you like – and help the less fortunate.

You can help the homeless people. Spend the day in a nursing home. Help in an animal shelter.  

This isn’t about what you give or how much you give – it’s about giving love & support to those who need it the most. Make someone happy this year. I promise, you’ll feel better yourself!

5. Set your expectations straight

Real life isn’t a Coca-Cola commercial – nor a Hallmark movie.

The high expectations we set for ourselves during the holiday season is what’s making us miserable in the first place.

The thing is, the more you believe you should be doing something special for the holidays, the worse you’ll feel. Don’t give in to the pressure – it’s not a must to feel ecstatic on Christmas Day or find love at your local bakery.

Think of it as just another day. Aim to feel good – don’t demand euphoria.

Treat yourself to a nice meal. Binge-watch Grey’s Anatomy. Give yourself a pedi – and spend the day just chilling. Trust me, you’ll have a blast anyway!

6. Reach out to others  

All your friends leaving town for Christmas?  

Then reach out to other people you know are staying back as well. Think the friends of your friends, acquaintances, neighbors, coworkers – literally anyone you like as a person!

It’s really simple – pick up the phone and give them a call.  

Invite them over for a cookout. Bake cookies together. Watch a movie together – or hang out on Christmas Eve at your place!   

You’d be surprised just how many people would love to hang out with you!

7. Plan activities by yourself

No one likes to hang out? You don’t have to spend the day crying in bed.

Plan something – do something fun. You have the time to do it anyway!   

Take yourself out on a date. Go to the movies and watch comedies. Read all the books you’ve wanted to but never found the time to read.

Have a bit of extra cash? Then travel for a few days – there are literally hundreds of solo-travelers groups online you can join if you hate traveling alone!

Spending the holidays alone doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. Actually, once you start exploring, you’d be amazed at all the fun things you can do by yourself during the holiday season!

Are you spending the holidays alone? What are your plans?

Leave me a comment and let me know!