Make Peace With Your Past: What You Can do to Heal
Are you still hurting from the past?
I know what it feels like to lie for hours in bed and keep asking: Why me? Which is why I wanted to discuss more about how to make peace with your past.
This won’t be a blog post where I simply tell you to drop your past and move on with life.
I’ve walked in your exact same shoes – and know how much the past can hurt. I know letting go isn’t easy. I know the pain is real.
So I want to tell you what I did to find my own peace with my past – and you can try doing the same. All of the methods I’ve used to work on myself are full of self-love and understanding.
Keep reading to get a glimpse into my story and see what you can do to heal.
Here’s my story. This video is very personal:
Today, I’m thankful for all the past emotional trauma.
I wouldn’t be the same person I am today if it weren’t for what happened in the past.
I wouldn’t grow as much.
I wouldn’t know and appreciate happiness and peace as much.
And I also know you can do the same.
Here’s what you can do to heal from the past:
1) Drop the Why me? questions
Dwelling constantly on the Why me? question will bring you two things: more pain & more suffering. It’ll also make you adopt the victim mindset on a subconscious level because the more you repeat something, the more you start believing it.
Constantly asking the why me? question shifts the control of your life from yourself to another person.
Get that control back. Don’t be a victim of your own past. Remember, everything happens for a reason – even if that reason is still not clear right now.
2) Accept what happened
You can’t live life in denial. You can wish for something not to have happened but that won’t change the fact that something did happen.
Accept what happened – don’t let your own past haunt you. Most of the time, you can’t change what happened but you can change the way you look at things.
Even saying out loud something like – Yes, I was hurt! or Yes, that event was extremely painful for me will be liberating and soothing to your wounds.
3) Talk about your pain
We try to avoid pain as much as possible. We shove our feelings deep down. We don’t talk about what it feels like to be hurt.
But pain has its own beauty. Suffering isn’t pretty but it helps you grow – more than what you ever thought possible.
So talk about your pain. Share it with others. The more you talk about it, the less you feel it. You’ll be surprised just how many people will be able to understand what you’re talking about.
4) Don’t hold any grudges
Forgiving someone for the pain they’ve caused you will be one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to do. But while doing it, you learn that you forgive yourself as well – because no, you haven’t done anything wrong.
Life’s too short – and too beautiful! – to be resentful. Shift your focus for the better, brighter things that are going to happen.
And really now – think about ALL of the things you can do with the mental energy you’re using to hold a grudge. Totally not worth it!
5) Look for your lesson
As I said, everything happens for a reason.
Believe it or not, my past has shaped the person I am today. I wouldn’t be the same without it.
My father leaving me wasn’t the best thing that has ever happened to me – but today, I wouldn’t have life any other way.
Are you still hurt from your past? Do you find forgiving others hard? What message do you have that you’d like to share with others to help them heal? Leave me a comment and let me know – I’d love to hear from you!