4 Steps on How to Deal With Losing Someone You Love
Have you ever lost someone? I know I have.
That is why I want to talk to you today about how to deal with losing someone you love.
The first thing you should know is that losing someone is part of life.
It doesn’t matter whether someone is no longer with us or you’re going through a bad breakup. Or maybe you’ve ended a friendship. Losing people you love is painful no matter the connection they had with you.
But you know what? I’ve learned this:
We cannot avoid loss no matter how much we try.
But what we can do is learn how to deal with the emotional pain as life goes on.
Keep reading – or simply watch the video – to learn what I do whenever I have to cope with the pain of losing someone.
First things first.
Here’s a video where I talk about navigating an emotional rollercoaster:
As you can hear yourself – I know what the pain of losing someone feels like. And I’m here for you.
In times I’ve lost someone, I’ve found these four steps to be crucial in my healing.
They’ve allowed me to express my sadness appropriately without stopping me from living and ultimately, helped me heal my wounds fully.
Here’s how you can do the same!
1. Accept the uncontrollable
No matter how much you want, you cannot control life – nor what happens next. Drop the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve talk.
Instead, focus on finding what I like to call, a space of surrender.
The space of surrender is that point in your life where you just stop worrying about what happens next and you let go. You can’t control everything.
I’ve often realized that my space of surrender often becomes my biggest source of power later on. It also teaches me how to live fully in the present and appreciate what I have right here and right now.
When you accept the fact that you cannot control the uncontrollable, even the negative emotions become easier to handle.
2. Allow yourself to feel
Whoever is reading this post – remember, this is SO important – please don’t shut down your emotions! You have to allow yourself to feel the emotions in your body.
It won’t be easy and it won’t feel nice – but you have to release them.
See, the thing is that emotions are energy. If tears and pain are stored up in the body, they will become negative energy. The more you repress it, the more toxic it becomes – and then it harms both your physical and mental health.
Let yourself feel whatever it is that you have to feel and move on.
3. Live through the grief
You know how people tell you to socialize more after a bad breakup so you won’t feel lonely?
I say, don’t do it if you don’t feel like it. Don’t force yourself to do anything that you don’t feel like.
The thing is that we often try and ignore grief as much as possible – and that’s not healthy. Give yourself the time and space you crave to be sad.
Whenever I’m going through the grieving process, I don’t want to be around people – I like to grieve out in peace.
4. No room for guilt
Loss can make you feel guilty for things that you shouldn’t feel guilty in the first place.
For example, I felt guilty that I was laughing at a cat video when just moments before I was sad. Then I realized I can still feel joy momentarily and grieve at the same time.
Guilt won’t change anything nor would it help you feel better – actually, quite the opposite will happen.
Last but not least – give time to time. Things will get better & you won’t always feel this way, I promise.
If you need support – please feel free to leave me a comment and talk to me. I’d be very happy to help you in a way if I can!