7 Ways in Which Suffering Makes You Stronger

If I know one thing for sure, then it’s this: suffering doesn’t feel nice.

And yet, there are people who have gone through some really nasty stuff in life and still, they are the warmest, kindest type of people.

Their secret? Post-traumatic growth!

Post-traumatic growth happens when you use a negative event in your life to create a positive change.

I can relate to this a lot. I wouldn’t be who I am today if it weren’t for all the past trauma in my life.

And the best part is that you can do the same.

Follow me as we take a look in the 7 ways in which suffering makes you stronger and how you can use past traumatic events to build resilience!

Before we go any deeper into the topic, I’ve done some thinking about suffering and why we suffer.

Here’s a video where I talk about the three types of suffering in life based on what I’ve noticed:


As you can tell yourself, everyone suffers in life.

I agree some sufferings are worse than others. But my point is, no one has it easy in life, even if it may seem like it on the outside.

That made me admire people who always manage to find the silver lining in everything.

Though this doesn’t mean you should head out looking for suffering – there’s no need to

romanticize pain.

It only means that when life goes south, you can and you should make the most out of it.

Here are the ways in which suffering makes you stronger:

You become spiritual

People often neglect spirituality on the account of never having enough time.

But when things get rough, you start looking for something more. Something bigger than life itself – and you discover spirituality.

Spirituality helps you look beneath the surface of everyday noise and remodel old values & beliefs that later on, help you become the best possible version of yourself.

You become more appreciative

We – myself included here – often take everything we have in life for granted. Too bad we need a traumatic experience to shift our perspective.

Once you overcome trauma in life, you no longer sweat the small stuff. You become much more appreciative of everything you have. Especially of the little things.

A gorgeous flower you spot on your way to work, a magic sunset after a long day, an hour spent with your friends are enough to make your day better. Life feels beautiful because life is beautiful indeed.

You build stronger relationships

Unfortunately, we often take our closest friends & family for granted too. But when times get hard, you realize you’re lucky to have them.

Not only that you get closer but you also manage to build better relationships with the people around you.

You spend more time talking about things that matter and look for ways to connect with each other on a much deeper level than before.

I’m grateful for the relationship I have with my mother and my sister. We would’ve never been as close without what happened to us in the past.

You find your peace

One of the best parts of post-traumatic growth is that you finally find your peace. Your mind & soul have grown so much, nothing can shatter you anymore.

You no longer go around searching for peace – you know you have it in you.

You’re confident that you can overcome anything life throws at you. You know what matters most to you. You know who you are and why you are here – and you’ve finally made your peace with the past.


You drop out of the rat race

I’ve always wondered how people can be content with having so little. Then I realized, money can’t buy you happiness.

Instead of looking to amass a fortune, you start looking to create value for others. After surviving trauma, people often look for work that feels emotionally rewarding.

You become more emphatic

Empathy is one of the greatest traits one can have – and yet we still have to face selfish, rude individuals on a daily basis.

However, after living through some bad stuff, you know what pain (both emotional & physical) feels like.

That allows you to become so aware of other people’s emotions, more caring, more loving. You become a better daughter, sister, friend, and partner to those around you.

You no longer hide your emotions

Emotional trauma is often the reason for physical illnesses. Once you learn that, you also learn that you need to let things go – nothing is more important than having a calm mind.

Bad experiences can teach you so much about sharing your emotions with others. You no longer hide what you’re feeling. You realize there’s no point in holding grudges.

You laugh when you’re happy and cry when you’re sad – and at the end of the day, still feel good about yourself.

How has a past negative experience changed you?

Have you become a better person just because of what happened to you?

Share your story with me and let me know. I’d love to hear what you have to say!